10 Things I Want My Daughter To Know
The World is an Unpredictable Place.
At times you'll think you have it all figured out, but that's when life throws you a curve ball that alters your path forever. These moments in life will be both magnificently beautiful and painfully unforgettable, but it is what life is made of. Every moment is shaping you, your future, and your life... Embrace the chaos my sweet girl because it never ends. You will find some days better than others, and moments become etched into your memories; but what's important is that you know we are all on this crazy ride together, and you never have to do it alone!
You Will Experience Heartache.
I wish I could shield you from this pain, as I myself still can't bear the agony. You will experience it for many reasons throughout your life and nothing I say can prepare you for the feeling. But when that day comes know that 'this too shall pass' and one day the heartache will slowly fade. It might take weeks, or it could take years; all I can tell you baby girl is you will get through it! Hold close the ones you love, for they will help you see the light on your darkest of days.
Stand up for What is Right.
Be brave in the face of injustice; you have a voice, don't be afraid to use it! You are capable of making a difference in someone else's life; if you witness something you think is wrong, take a stand, be a voice, don't let it go unnoticed. Every time you stand up for something you send out a tiny ripple of hope - crossing paths with a million others, that tiny ripple could become a powerful current that tears down the mightiest of walls. Be brave my darling, it is in you!
Walk Life at Your Own Pace.
As hard as it can be, try not to compare yourself to others. You are not them, you are YOU! You will never be able to measure your life to another's, because no two paths are the same. Some days you will feel ahead of your peers, and some days you will feel far behind, but sweetie, you are neither... You are exactly where you are supposed to be in YOUR life! Focus on your goals, on what makes you happy, or helps you to grow; worrying all the time will suck the fun out of everything - I can tell you this from experience!
Beauty is What's in Your Soul.
You are growing up in a time where the idea of beauty is wildly distorted, so hear me when I tell you this... Beauty has nothing to do with your looks, beauty is a reflection of your inner kindness. If you carry kindness in your soul and share it with others, you will be the most beautiful girl there is. Live your life as though the world is blind, because at the end of the day how you looked won't matter, but how you treated people will!
Give Respect and Expect it in Return.
Treat everyone how you want to be treated. If you don't give respect you can't ask it in return, but hunny, if you give it, expect it in return. Don't allow someone to degrade you, belittle you, or walk all over you; if you give them respect, you deserve it back. I don't care their age, gender, religion or economic status... we will get by in this world more peacefully if everyone is respectful to each other. You will come across many people in your lifetime who won't think this way, and in those times do your best to rise above - show them your morals don't depend on their behaviour.
Go After What You Want in Life.
You are capable of extraordinary things! You can do anything you set your mind to; as cliche as that is, I want you to truly believe that! Your success in life is determined by how much you believe in yourself, how much you are willing to risk, and how many times you get back up after you fall. No dream is too big, a dream is a dream, they are all something to work towards!! Even if extraordinary for you, is ordinary for someone else, go after it... whatever makes you happy sweet pea!
Don't Hold Back on Things You Want to Say.
Tell people how you feel, voice your opinion! The world is filled with too many bad people willing to do all the talking... Stand up a let the voice of a good person be heard! The words you share can make all the difference in someone else's life, so use them wisely. Being open and honest about your thoughts will connect you to souls that are just like yours, and you never know the ripple effect that can have in your life or someone else's! Never apologize for how you feel, you're entitled to your feelings - that being said, don't be a dick okay, because I'm trying my best to raise you better than that.
Your Mistakes Don't Define You.
You will make many mistakes in life, my love, that is a fact, but these moments DON'T define you. Build on them, learn from them, but don't dwell on them... Pick yourself up and keep on living. Sometimes your mistake will seem life shattering, but I promise you, you can be stronger from it! There will be people in your life who will remind you of these mistakes, but know they have made their own too! The key is realizing where you went wrong and knowing what you need to do to move on.
I Will Love You Always.
No matter what happens in our lives, I will ALWAYS love you. You are my baby; I carried you inside of me, I gave birth to you, and watched you grow. I will be there for all your setbacks and every single triumph. I will love you when you can't fathom why, and remind you every single day. I will give you roots to stay grounded and wings to let you fly. My arms will always be here to hold you, you will never be too big! I will love you always my angel, and if I could give you one gift in life, I would give you the ability to see yourself through my eyes, only then you would realize just how special you are to me!